February 14th, 2024
Valentines Day/ Ash Wednesday
Some mornings as I wake up and walk to the pulpit, I become overwhelmed by the sense of Love that exists in the world. I pray to God to open my throat chakra and allow my voice to be clear and strong so that each word can be heard, and that I can be an instrument for peace.
But there are days, like Valentine’s Day, which is today when my voice feels small and weak. If I had to walk to the pulpit and preach today, I would ask why we’ve allowed love to be such an earned value in romantic relationships.
I say this, coming off the heels of a romantic encounter in which, I had told on our second date that I wanted to wait for intimacy because I felt he and I had a real potential to fall in love and I didn’t want to rush things. And now, days later on Valentine’s Day, I sit alone. Wondering, was my honesty too soon?
Probably so, my friends acquiesce. But I hold in reverse memory a friend of mine who called me Valentine’s Days years ago sobbing. Her boyfriend of a year and her had had a romantic dinner, and she was waiting desperately for him to tell her he loved her. He did not that night, and instead of communicating her own love to him, she held her voice in and made herself small, so that her big emotions wouldn’t scare him off. And of course, much later- he did tell her she loved him, and now they are married. But I have been in hospital rooms with the dying, and I know the urgency of living life to the fullest, because no moments in our futures are guaranteed.
We much be responsible stewards of our lives, and we must love as big and as wide and as deep as we possibly can. It is that simple.
The games I see play out in the concerns on the freshly partnered on sharing their emotions first is a waste of our divine energy. God didn’t design us in His image to barricade our love behind walls of protective emotional barriers and earned rights. Love doesn’t have to wait until X amount of time has passed together. Love is Love.
When we give our love freely something shifts in our vibration. We are elevated emotionally, our hearts open, and those around us can pick up on the positive change of frequency. Consequently, when we hoard our love, reserving it for those who “earn” it, we actually lose out in the game of life. Our vibrations lower, our emotions are harder to regulate, because we’re suppressing the best parts of our souls that is meant to be shared.
Be brave my friends, share the love that you hold in your hearts, and let those you love know. For tomorrow is not promised.